My Bestie Was Unalived in 1990.

In 1990, my best friend was unalived by a 25-year-old man. She was barely 20. He beat her so savagely with a baseball bat that blood and brain matter touched the ceiling of her 18 foot loft. That’s the image I still carry. At first, we all blamed her fiancé. He was abusive, angry, and controlling. So of course we thought it was him. We alienated him. Shut him out. He lost his fiancée and all his friends in one horrifying moment. But it wasn’t him. It was her neighbor. Just a weak man that was obsessed with her. And yeah… if you don’t want to be accused of unaliving someone, maybe don’t beat your partner Here’s what still makes my blood boil. The man child who did it begged the judge for leniency. Because he “had his whole life ahead of him.” Fricking narcissists! You know what the judge said? He said it was one of the most brutal cases he had ever seen. Then he gave him the maximum sentence allowed by law at the time: 15 years. That was it. That’s what her life was worth. Meanwhile, that guy is currently out. He got out when he was 40, and he brutalized the family by appealing every chance he got, and forcing them to relive the horror. And now here’s the part that connects the dots: 90% of people who commit gRape or redrum like this are men. And in 1990, only about 6% of Congress were women. So…

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True Alphas Don’t Showboat: The Quiet Confidence of Real Leadership

Alpha Males Aren't Real

In today’s culture, the term “alpha male” is often misunderstood and misused. The common portrayal of an alpha is that of a loud, domineering man who constantly boasts about his achievements, flaunts his wealth, and thrives on attention. However, this image couldn’t be further from the truth. A real alpha male doesn’t need to showboat or brag. True alpha status comes from within—an unshakable inner confidence that doesn’t require validation from others. In this article, we’ll explore why those who feel the need to flaunt their power are often far from true alphas and how quiet confidence defines real leadership. 1. Quiet Confidence is the Real Power A genuine alpha male doesn’t need to walk into a room and demand attention. He commands respect with his presence alone. His confidence is quiet, understated, and authentic. It doesn’t need to be shouted from the rooftops because it’s inherent in how he carries himself, treats others, and handles adversity. When someone feels the need to showboat or dominate every conversation, it’s often a reflection of insecurity rather than strength. They rely on external validation to feel good about themselves. On the contrary, a true alpha is secure in who he is and doesn’t need others to prop him up. 2. Respect is Earned, Not Taken The loudest person in the room is often the weakest. While some may try to impose their dominance through intimidation or ego, this approach only works temporarily. Respect that’s built on fear or superficial displays of power doesn’t last.…

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